When a sibling or parent has Borderline Personality Disorder

One of the most difficult challenges we, as adult can face, is overcoming the insidious damages of having a parent who has had an unhealthy emotional bond with us.

Our members come here to grieve and identify and work through the personality defects often acquired when we are born into a “BPD” lineage or grew up with unhealthy role models. We aspire to find a healing and balance in our lives so that we can have the most loving relationships possible with our entire extended families.


  • Unlike guilt, which is the feeling of doing something wrong, shame is the feeling of being something wrong. Shame is increasingly being recognized as a powerful, painful and potentially dangerous emotion - especially for those...
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  • Emotional incest is a style of parenting in which a parent looks to their child to provide a level of emotional support that would normally be provided by another adult. This is a heavy burden a child who must suppress their own...
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  • Is it borderline personality
    The answer is that there is no blood test or simple check list for personality disorders. To evaluate someone in your life requires learning about the disorders and getting a good sense of the persons emotional "lifetime" - how...
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  • Children of mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) show a significantly higher prevalence of ‘disorganized’ attachment than children of mothers without BPD. Disorganized children face stress management problems,...
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  • Forgiven
    I realize I’ll always bear some scars from my childhood: a nagging distrust of others, shame, regrets. But now I realize I'm not that helpless child anymore and rather than stoke my resentment that she could have done better...
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  • karpman-triangle
    When people find themselves in conflict with another person, they will reach out to a third person creating a triangle. While often a stabilizing factor, triangulation can also be very destabilizing - causing more turmoil and...
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  • feelings of drepression
    Your mind speed will increase. Your mind will race at what seems like 200 miles per hour. Most dangerous. People often tell their doctor "I can't get my mind to stop! The minute I wake up in the morning - it will start up". Your...
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  • Fear, obligation and guilt
    Fear, obligation and guilt are the transactional dynamics at play when we feel that we are being controlled by others. Controlling or being controlled is a transaction between two people with both playing a part; the "controller...
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  • DSM 5 - Borderline Personality
    Read the complete and unabridged classification of Borderline Personality Disorder as published by the American Psychiatric Association. This is a rare look at the definition used by professionals to ensure uniform diagnosis.
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  • DSM 5 - Narcissistic Personality
    The "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders," is a comprehensive classification of officially recognized psychiatric disorders, published by the American Psychiatric Association , for use by mental health...
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