When a partner, spouse or girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder

Are you angry, hurt, confused? Concerned that your spouse, your boyfriend or your girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder traits and trying to understand what it all means?

There are no easy answers. A relationship with a partner with Borderline Personality Disorder is challenging and requires a great deal of strength, patience, and knowledge. Read more:


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