Breaking up with a person with Borderline Personality Disorder

Have you arrived here because you have been left behind or are breaking up with a "Borderline" - a person with Borderline Personality Disorder traits (BPD)? Do you feel wounded, betrayed, and with a need to protect yourself or children from an unhealthy situation?

People with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder often have a history of stormy and dysfunctional relationships. Former and exiting partners often struggle to disengage because of its intense nature and an often unexpected downward turn. Time doesn't heal all - in some cases it takes a village (therapy and a support group) to put it all behind in a healthy way. Read on:


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